Who are you? It’s a question that haunts us at every stage of our life; a question we’re all desperate to find the answer to, while we navigate this world, sandwiched between what society feeds us and our own interpretation of our experiences. We’ve constantly been shaped, genetically, environmentally, psychologically. For a long time, after I…Continue Reading “On Cultural Identity: Who am I? A Chinese Mauritian.”
It’s been about 7 months since I’ve entered the working world or the #worklife or what you would call ‘finally being an adult’.
And let me tell you, as someone who has studied abroad and has then returned to her home country to work, it hasn’t been easy. Things have been great sometimes, but they have also been harsh. Unforgiving. Shocking. Lonely.
The transition from being a university student to being a competent adult in the working world comes with a lot of expectations, mainly from your elders, but also from your ‘successful’ friends on social media, and eventually, from yourself. (Yes, and you are the worst critic of yourself!)
This year so far has been filled with difficult times for me, but in the end, you always learn something from painful experiences. Thus, I came up with this list, pieces of advice I wish I’d followed before starting my work life after university.Continue Reading "5 Pieces Of Career Advice I Wish I’d Listened To"
Depression is a personal battle. Each of our experience is unique, despite the basic symptoms being laid out in the DSM-V. Sometimes, it’s hard to figure out what’s happening to us on our own. How do you really know if you are depressed? Are you genuinely sick or just exaggerating? Is it a phase? Will…Continue Reading “Depression: How It Feels Like & What To Do About It”
In my previous blog article, I talked about my lifetime hobby: playing the piano (self-taught, so it’s all for fun). And I realised that, as much as it is a hobby, it did teach me a thing or two about life in general, specifically in terms of career. So after you read this, go tell…Continue Reading “5 Career Lessons I Learnt Playing The Piano”
These past few months have not been easy. Fuck the sugarcoating: transitioning from being an international student in a foreign country to being back at your parents’ house and re-adapting to your old life is a painful process. It’s harder when the culture and lifestyle you’ve been enjoying for 3 years don’t match the ones in your home country.
It’s worse when you’ve got no friends to return to once you’re home.
And, from personal experience, it’s even worse when you start a new job right after you’ve arrived. No time to settle into old routines. No time to recharge and go through the whirl of emotions going through your head.
Unfortunately, time doesn’t stop. Life goes on, even when you have the post-grad blues. It feels like a race, sometimes, where you can’t slow down or stop, or you’ll feel like you’re falling behind.
If you’re going through this right now, know that you’re not alone. And know that it will slowly but surely get better.
But how? The first step is to find a hobby.Continue Reading "Overcoming Post-Grad Blues: Finding A Hobby"
Ever since I’ve started blogging, I’ve openly written that my dream job was to be a writer. At first, I meant fiction writer, but as adulthood and the realities of the real world sank in, I diverted to becoming a freelance writer.
Being a freelance writer was not too bad. But at the end of the day, I was like: ‘is that it?’
Is this what ‘living the dream’ meant?
It was exciting to finally get paid to write, yes, but there was nothing more to it. So I started questioning myself: was being a writer really my dream job? Was this what I wanted to do for the rest of my life? The answer arose almost immediately: no.
That was when I decided to ‘change career paths’ and divert to digital marketing. However, my previous freelance work kept attracting companies and writing opportunities, so I ended up merging both my interest in marketing and my content writing skills.Continue Reading "Why Looking For Your Dream Job Is Just Not Enough…"
*FYI: This post was looong overdue.
I think this is the worst feeling in the world: to go home and realise you feel like a complete stranger.
It’s been two weeks since I returned to Mauritius, my home country, definitively. I had said my goodbyes in Malaysia, knowing that I may not go back there anytime soon. The last weeks spent with my friends were a blast; for once, I spent my money like I was really on vacation (after being on a student budget for so long!).
My first week in Mauritius was not too bad, mainly because I did go back for about a month in October and also because I immediately started working.
The homesickness didn’t come all at once or in full-force. It came gradually, like a wave. It comes into little cracks, cracks you don’t know about. It starts when I catch myself checking Instagram less and less, fearing that I’ll miss my ‘old life’. It is here when Saturday comes and all of my close friends are abroad. On Friday nights.Continue Reading "Feeling Homesick In Your Own Home"
The other day, my dad gave me one of the worst financial advice I’d ever heard from an adult (sorry dad).
We were talking about saving money, which was pretty much one of my most important student life principles, and I told him how I could’ve bought the new Samsung Galaxy S8 (but didn’t because at that moment it would have literally brought down my savings account to 0). Instead, I decided to be an angel by using the money to pay for my own expenses (including rent) for my 3-week graduation trip.
Here’s what he told me: “You know, Daphnee, you’re young so you should enjoy life and spend on whatever you want.”Continue Reading "Please Don’t Fall Into This Spending Trap"
Most of the time, people mistake ‘happiness’ as the life goal. A destination we have yet to reach. But you have heard of that ‘Instagrammable’ inspirational quote which says that happiness is, instead, the journey.
Unfortunately, quotes don’t solve any problem. And sometimes, they are so simplified that we tend to misunderstand them. Yes, I agree that happiness is the journey, but it doesn’t mean that our new goal is to now be happy all the time. That’s where people get the concept of happiness wrong: it is not constant. Your journey doesn’t have to be always bright and beautiful. There will be storms.
It’s time to delete that misconception from your neurotic pathways. Happiness is not constant. If, after reading the quote, you’ve set yourself to achieve 100% happiness in your day-to-day, you are bound to failure and disappointment. Happiness isn’t the destination, but it is not entirely the journey either.
So what is happiness? And how dare a 22-year-old like me lecture you on such ‘wisdom’?Continue Reading "What Does Happiness Mean At 22?"
Dear future graduates, On the 11th November 2017, I graduated with a Bachelor of Arts (Social Sciences) from Monash University. It has only been two months since I finished my degree (a bit later than usual because I had deferred an exam) and 1.5 months since I flew back to my home country (yes, only…Continue Reading “To Future Graduates: How To Have A Viable Career In 2018?”